Domestic abuse: The warning signs | Jawhara

Chris Brown?s new tattoo looks like the face of a battered woman. Photograph: AdMedia/Photos

By Lizzie Cernik ? Despite the fact domestic violence is a worldwide problem, it?s still a taboo topic in many countries. When you?re in love it can be hard to see a man?s true character from the outset and many women end up trapped in unhealthy relationships.

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This was the case with Chris Brown and Rihanna, when in 2009 it emerged Brown had been sentenced some months before, for an attack which, according to police documents, involved him shoving Rihanna?s head against a car window, punching her repeatedly in the face, biting her left ear and fingers, and placing her in a headlock until she began to lose consciousness.

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This disturbing event has returned to the headlines recently after Chris Brown proudly showed his new tattoo of what looks like the face of a battered woman.

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Singer Rihanna is reported to be back in contact with Chris Brown

Sometimes family pressures, financial difficulties and low self-esteem can make it harder to leave an abusive partner. In a bid to raise awareness about these relationships, we?ve brought you a list of ?violence warning signs?. We?re not saying all men who have these traits will become aggressive, but if your partner is behaving oddly, you?d be wise to exercise caution.

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Controlling

If a man told you what to do from the word go, he?d be dumped faster than he could say ?do you fancy a third date?? Controlling behaviour has a way of creeping up on you, meaning you may not notice the early warning signs. If your man starts trying to control where you go, who you see or what you wear, by very wary. Domineering men also have a tendency to become easily angered when things don?t go their way. If you notice this type of behaviour from your boyfriend, make sure you confide in a close friend or family member.

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Jealous

A bit of jealousy is perfectly natural, but if your man becomes angry every time you so much as glance in another man?s direction, it could be a sign of his own insecurity and volatility. Abusive partners will often make unfounded accusations of cheating and use this as an excuse to become violent.

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Brown was given a sentence of five years probation and ordered to complete 180 days of community labour and a year of domestic violence counseling

Emotionally abusive

If your partner starts to say hurtful things to you it?s time to take a step backwards. Because this behaviour is often very gradual, it can be hard to notice this emotional abuse at first. Your boyfriend should be making you feel happier and more confident in yourself. If he ever belittles you or puts you down either at home or in front of others, there?s and chance he may become physically abusive further down the line.

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Mood swings

Often acting like the white knight riding to your rescue, abusive men are usually extremely loving and attentive during the early stages of a relationship.? If your man does starts displaying signs of aggression, he?s likely to revert to Prince Charming? after losing his temper. Don?t be fooled by his apologies and declarations of love. Just because he?s sorry, doesn?t mean the violence won?t escalate.

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Monitoring you

It?s natural for a boyfriend to be concerned about where you are after a night out. But if he starts tracking your every move, it?s a bad sign, particularly if he?s invading your privacy to do it. Violent men want to get total control over their girlfriends and may make you feel guilty for going out or having a life without him.

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If you?ve experienced domestic violence, don?t suffer alone. Talk to friend, family members or confide in the Dubai Foundation for Women and Children http://www.dfwac.ae/programs-services.htm, a UAE based charity.

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